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The pendulum. I’m not going to contact them first, they’ll have to contact me first. The peak end rule. The pendulum is simply an analogy for the trajectory your emotions take after a break up. Adopting a mindset of “they’ll have to Summary Joe faces a difficult time in his life. Rating K (5,985 words) Time to Let Go Series: Time to Let Go. Time to Say Goodbye. Time To Say Goodbye. Joe Cartwright slowly dismounted from his horse and frowned at the sight of the buggy in the front yard. He recognised it instantly as belonging to Paul Martin, their local doctor. RhettButler : [forces her to look him in the eyes] Here's a soldier of the South who loves you, Scarlett. Wants to feel your arms around him, wants to carry the memory of your kisses into battle with him. Never mind about loving me, you're a woman sending a soldier to his death with a beautiful memory. Scarlett! Yeah,” she said. “Yeah he did. And if that’s changed I wanna know why.” “Okay, well I have a surprising number of non-lethal options, so that shouldn’t be too much of a problem, so long as you don’t have a weak stomach because some of them” Cel turned and made their way back into their workshop, still chattering. Thispoem is dedicated to the person who hurts person that I still love until now. Even though it's hard to understand him, it's still him that I'm longing. It's just like I'm loving without anything in return, but he left me still. I can't deny the fact that I love him. I want him to stay, but his dreams are too high and I'm not one of his dreams, but I'm still hoping someday God v1xjN. The Gray ChapterAdeusVenha pra cá ... desgrudar ...Não é fácil de ver todos vocêsSirvam-se. A ajuda está a caminhoBem, não há nada a perder, então agora eu tenho algo a dizerTalvez nós podemos reconhecer um momento de silêncioTalvez possamos, finalmente, chegar a acordo sobre o mesmo ponto de vistaHá muito tempo atrás nós acreditavamos ... e estávamos unidosEntão a última coisa no mundo que eu estou pronto para fazer é dizer... AdeusHá muito tempo atrás, nós descobrimos que nada pode nos pararIsso não nos dilacera por isso nada vaiComo podemos saber onde estamos, se o sol está atrás de nós?Mas esse momento vai nos mostrar o resto de nossas vidasNinguém vai nos salvar desta vezNinguém pode saber o que estamos sentindo ...Portanto, nem sequer tenteGoodbyeCome on over... come unglued...It's not easy to see all of youHelp yourselves. Help is on the wayWell there's nothing to lose so now I have something to sayMaybe we can all recognize a moment of silenceMaybe we can finally agree on the same point of viewA long time ago we believed... and we were unitedSo the last thing on Earth I am ready to do is say... GoodbyeA long time ago we discovered that nothing could stop usThis hasn't torn us apart so nothing ever willHow can we know where we are if the sun is behind us?But this moment will show us the rest of our livesNo one is going to save us this timeNo one can know what we're feeling...So don't even try You Said Goodbye You told me your secretsYou told me your liesYou told me you loved meThen you said goodbyeIt´s 4 in the morningI´m here all aloneJust trying to rememberHow this thing went wrongCause' you told me your secretsYou told me your liesYou told me you loved meThen you said, you said, you said, you saidYou said goodbyeYou said goodbyeYou said goodbyeYou said, you said, you said, you saidIn my wildest nightmaresI never guessedI saw a futureBut you had other plansIt´s not that I´m angryI´m just caught off-guardIt felt like foreverNow forever's all goneCause you told me your secretsYou told me your liesYou told me you loved meThen you said, you said, you said, you saidYou said goodbyeYou said goodbyeYou said goodbyeYou said, you said, you said, you saidYou told me your secretsYou told me your liesYou told me you loved meThen you said, you said, you said, you saidYou said goodbyeYou said goodbyeYou said goodbyeYou said, you said, you said, you saidYou said goodbyeYou said goodbyeYou said goodbyeYou said, you said, you said, you saidYou said goodbye Você Disse Adeus Você me contou seus segredosVocê me contou suas mentirasVocê me disse que me amavaEntão você disse adeusÉ 4 da manhãEstou aqui sozinhoTentando lembrarComo isso deu erradoPorque você me contou seus segredosVocê me contou suas mentirasVocê me disse que me amavaEntão você disse, você disse, você disse, você disseVocê disse adeusVocê disse adeusVocê disse adeusVocê disse, você disse, você disse, você disseNos meus piores pesadelosNunca imagineiEu vi um futuroMas você tinha outros planosNão é que eu esteja com raivaEstou apenas pego de surpresaParecia que era pra semprePra sempre agora se foiPorque você me contou seus segredosVocê me contou suas mentirasVocê me disse que me amavaEntão você disse, você disse, você disse, você disseVocê disse adeusVocê disse adeusVocê disse adeusVocê disse, você disse, você disse, você disseVocê me contou seus segredosVocê me contou suas mentirasVocê me disse que me amavaEntão você disse, você disse, você disse, você disseVocê disse adeusVocê disse adeusVocê disse adeusVocê disse, você disse, você disse, você disseVocê disse adeusVocê disse adeusVocê disse adeusVocê disse, você disse, você disse, você disseVocê disse adeus Woman outside in snow holding out notes that say "good" and "bye" Source Photo by Andrey Zvyagintsev on Unsplash When many of us packed up mid-March to try to get ahead of the alarming new virus that didn’t yet have a name, we couldn’t begin to imagine the magnitude of what was happening. Had we known, we would have said goodbye. Goodbye to our colleagues, our teachers and students, our therapists and patients, our 8 baristas and building doormen. Goodbye to our routines, jobs, and life as we knew it. On Saying Goodbye Most of us have a sense that goodbyes are important even if we avoid them sometimes because they’re hard or awkward. Saying goodbye allows us to put words to feelings, shape how we remember someone, codify our choices, and frame distinct periods of time. In short, goodbyes give us a sense of closure as we move into the next phases of our lives. Schwörer, Krott, and Oettingen 2020 found across seven different studies that "well-rounded endings”—those marked by a sense of closure—were associated with positive affect, relatively little regret, and an easier transition into the next life phase. For example, in one of the studies of exchange students, the more well-rounded the endings at the end of a visit abroad, the more positive the students felt afterwards, the less regret they experienced about having missed out on opportunities, and the easier it was for them to settle into their home again. On NOT Saying Goodbye If we don’t get to say goodbye, resolution is harder to come by. We may never fully resolve the separation, and may find ourselves in a perpetual state of mourning, wondering what could have been. We may be left with feelings of regret, anger, confusion and guilt. Alternatively, it can feel like the relationship, event, or time period almost never happened. When a good friend leaves without saying goodbye, we might wonder if they ever really cared about us and conclude that it wasn’t an important relationship after all. In other words, endings matter and are often what we remember. A formal or informal goodbye synthesizes the form and texture—the melody, rhythm, and harmony if you will—of our experiences into a ballad we can carry with us in our minds. On Unusual Goodbyes When cities and towns suddenly shut down in early Spring, there were no goodbye parties, festive meals or trips to the airport; no stories, hugs, and mixed emotions measured in laughter and tears. Instead, we scuttled off to isolate at our private homes or our parents’ homes, waiting in limbo for things to get back to usual. But with winter looming and little normalcy in sight, we can no longer pretend it’s still late March. As furloughs turn into layoffs, some of us won’t be going back to jobs and face a loss of health insurance or worse. Those of us who are lucky enough to still have jobs are seeing our professions change in ways we never imagined. Therapy, for example, is 100% remote for many therapists like me and is unlikely to ever be fully in-person again. As with all change, there are pros and cons. While I’m glad this makes mental health treatment more accessible to many, I worry therapeutic relationships will become impersonal and therefore less effective; that the distance we get from a phone or screen may create a false sense of safety so that the trials and tribulations of real intimacy are never fully tested; that the energy and resonance that arises from two people in a room together will fall flat. And it’s not just COVID that has changed things. The killing of George Floyd, along with countless others, has led to a national discussion not just of police brutality, but of the inequity running through every fiber of our society. Part of changing that, as we ethically must, means recognizing where people of color have been excluded. Professional worlds are shifting to make room for more diverse and representative populations. The theatre world provides us a good example of the widespread and unexpected transformation that characterizes 2020. Hobbled programmatically and financially by the pandemic, the theater world has also been called on to reconstitute itself in less racist ways. Resignations and restructuring will hopefully mean talented people historically overlooked will be given a fairer shake. The world is changing for the better in that way. But even positive change can mean difficult adjustments. Those who didn’t realize the house/profession/nation needed renovating because the foundation was faulty didn’t know to say goodbye. Our endings deserve the same ritual and respect we give our beginnings. For performance artist Marina Abramovic and her partner Ulay, what started as an idea for a marriage that never materialized became their goodbye to each other and their 12-year relationship. Walking from opposite ends of the Great Wall of China, they met in the middle to bid a final farewell. Such a dramatic and bountiful goodbye isn’t necessary for closure, but walking toward someone or something in order to more easily walk away is poignant symbolism. If we are to grow, embracing change is not optional. But when change is unforeseen as it has been for so many people this year, how do we gain the closure needed for a better state of mind to move forward? Like high school graduations that became car parades and 40th birthday celebrations that became Zoom toasts, we need creativity and courage to create psychologically valuable goodbyes. We can bake ourselves an intricate goodbye cake, gather letters from former coworkers for a memory book, or put up a soap box in the park where we can gather, socially distanced, with strangers to commiserate about what we miss most. We can call our moms, our friends or our therapists and talk about it until it makes sense. Making peace with what no longer is is essential because the most painful goodbyes are the ones never processed.